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I was going to share a story about the pressure a friend was getting from her folks about marriage. But decided maybe I should make this interesting and ask people to share some of the more 'interesting' comments they have received about why they are unmarried. Also interesting schemes you've heard or experienced concerning marriage. please no- she got pregnant stories. they have been played out. Thanks I'll start this off with a few. Please drop yours in the comment box - Have you graduated with your MRS degree yet? - During a prayer session- God if she has used her husband to do 'ako' in the past. Lord, forgive her. Please let him come back. - Hasn't prince Charming showed up yet? Will add more as I think of them...

I have a pretty simple question. Why does a woman/man become a mistress? I mean, ignoring or putting aside the socio-economic reason that is touted most times. How satisfying is it really to have a man/woman that is only there half the time,if it's even up to half.  Someone you can't call at the drop off the hat. Can only provide you with their full attention once in awhile and can walk out on you or deny you whenever. I mean, you can't possibly show off this person. For all you Instagram addicts, you can't put up pictures of you and this 'special person'. You definitely can't 'loud' this relationship. So, in some ways,as my sister puts it - it's a hole in the corner affair. Well, I think there must be some kind of thrill for these people. It's the same way an addict gets high. They enjoy the thrill of a new relationship. One that only 'they' know about. They pretend in public but get 'high' in private. They discover

Following my earlier posts about relationships and finding a 'life partner', decided to do some research and come up with interesting relationship facts. I plan to unveil relationship facts that could help someone out there. Please I just call them facts. That does NOT make them so. Remember there is no road map to this thing called relationships. Its a very individual thing. SO here's hoping I keep you all entertained and coming back to read more. Please feel free to drop your comments below. Thanks    #FACT 1 One of the most important relationships in any individuals' life is the relationship between their parents. The way a child sees his/her parents interact serves as a back bone for almost every other relationship the child has. And this doesn't just apply to romantic involvements. It also colours our other relationships -siblings, friends, colleagues  even with your boss. This does not mean a child from a home where the parents are divorced will

Hi everyone, came across this article( 10 things never to say to singles )  and I think it's a must read for people who feel inclined to ask about their single friends relationships. Some may seem like no brainers but sometimes we just don't put enough thought into how we come across. Mainly cause we care but that isn't really an excuse. Guess the more important question is which do we value more- the friend or her/his love life? While we are on this topic of careless sentences that friends say, I must mention when a friend asked what I was waiting and wasn't with child. Talk about being pushy. I should have issued her the above certificate. Honestly even my mum wasn't that obvious. We(Nigerians) have a culture of 'poke nosing' but we should stop and ask some important questions before letting that statement loose. Questions; - Why do I want to know this? Is it concern or just a need to hear gist? If it's about gist. Hold out. T

What is it about relationships that fascinate the human being soo much? All sorts of books on how to 'catch your soulmate', articles abound on 10 steps to the 'perfect relationship' and blogs awash with all manner of agony aunt letters. One would assume with all this info,getting a partner would be easy. Shared this on my facebook page a few weeks ago. Since then there have been several agony aunt mails on the blogs I read on relationships/marriage. All of them, some depressing story about marriage/relationships- spouses cheating, lost love, violence etc... We all know marriage isn't a bed of roses but it isn't always bad and sometimes you have to look at the big picture. So, I am starting a post for positive/realistic stories about marriage.             Feel free to tell us yours or a "friend's" story. Not testimony style,just how marriage has been good and how you solve problems/conflicts. I look forward to hear

A number of blogs have been reporting that Toke Makinwa won't be taking her husband's surname. Not officially anyway. And I was wondering why that was even news worthy. So, she isn't changing her name,big deal. Do guys even realize the pain the name change thing can be. To the point you change your signature sef. Seriously though, why is this a prerequisite to marriage. I think its outdated. It shouldn't be a big deal if a woman does not take her husband's name. Let's even analyze this trend. WHY was it started and what has it achieved? Who profits from this? Why aren't guys required to change their own surnames? Would love to hear from guys? Do u still feel it's important for your wives to change their surname to yours? Why is it important?Would you consider changing it to hers?  Before you shout, remember that's the trend in some tribes in Ghana. And the children take the wife's surname. Hit me up guys and gals. Let's try to mak

I am HUMAN! I have never considered myself a feminist but then again, I have never thought I wasn’t a human being either. I grew up in Nigeria, in a middle class household. I lived in a house with my parents and  4 older siblings - 2 girls and 2 boys. My mom is a doctor and my Dad, a banker. Growing up was run of the mill; We played,  cleaned,  studied and  went to bed at the same time. But there were some chores that were allocated to boys and others for the girls. For example, cooking was for the girls, while washing cars was a boys’ thing. I remember asking my mum once why the boys weren’t joining in the cooking and the answer was - "that’s just the way it is". I eventually took on some ‘boy’ chores like putting my Dad’s clothes away and changing light bulbs when my brothers left home. The reason for the background, I guess is to let you know a bit about me and the circumstances around how I grew up.  Later,in my university years, I was the only female I knew o

A new law passed in the UAE now requires women to breastfeed their kids for at least 2 years. The  law  also states that men can sue their wives if they refuse. If a woman for medical reasons is unable to breastfeed, then a wet nurse would be provided.  I can't even begin to start with this one. Its hard enough to breastfeed then to make it mandatory, even punishable if a woman decides not to. Na wa oh. Then other questions arise like; who is this wet nurse, do i have a choice or must I take the one offered, who pays this nurse, does she express and give the baby or is she required to pop her boob into my child's mouth, will she be required to live in my house for this 2 year period and who decides a woman is medically unable to breastfeed.... I'd like to know what you  people think.Personally if I lived in the UAE, I think I might just run. Please feel free to drop your comments below...... P.S While we are on the topic of breastfeeding, please what's th

Oprah Winfrey, tv legend and one of, if not the richest woman in the world with a net worth of 2.9 billion, recently explained in an interview with Hollywood reporters why she didn't have kids. "If I had kids, my kids would hate me. They would have ended up on the equivalent of the Oprah show talking about me, because something in my life would have had to suffer and it would've probably been them. Gayle (now a mother of two) was the kind of kid who, in seventh grade class, was writing down her name and the names of her children while I was having daydreams about how I could be a Martin Luther King". Linda posted this on her blog,read HERE . The comments weren't unexpected for the average Nigerian. I guess I am just pained because we continually show an intolerance for people or things that don't think the way we do.  So, Oprah felt she would not make a good mother. That she would be unable to balance her career and the demand of having kids.

It's been awhile since I posted on my blog. Happy New Year to everyone. Hope 2014 has been a great year thus far. I have personally named this year, the year of self motivation. So , if there is anything you have been planning to do for ages e.g writing an exam, applying for a masters or any other programme etc. This is the year to accomplish it. I hope to post motivational quotes and articles this year. So let's get cracking. I wish you everything you wish yourself and more this year. Let's make 2014 a year to remember. Let's go there......